Consider these two responses
Person 1: I have a lot going on in my life right now... I'm not sure I can handle that as well.
Person 2: I don't have time for such nonsense.
Which of these two people would you immediately understand and/or identify with?
Who do you think has 'more reason' in their answer?
If you're thinking person 1, you're wrong.
The answer is: neither of them.
You see, words have over time acquired certain implications and meanings that they may or may not have had when they were first created. There's no way of knowing for sure, this thing goes back to the creation of language....long, long, looong ago.
So why would you give Person 1 sympathy or understanding and not give the same to Person 2?
Don't you think that they're both saying the same thing? Or is it because Person 2 said 'I don't have time' and 'nonsense' that we immediately jump to conclusions?
Look, both of them are really saying, 'I can't do that' OR 'I won't do that'. All Person 2 did was go ahead and add how they felt about what they were being asked to do. They were being brutally honest.
And what does brutal honesty get you? Nothing good, most of the time.
And we wonder why people would rather lie.
So what am I saying here?
I'm not sure I really know myself. Perhaps it's just that we need to take time to stop and listen more often than not.
Maybe then people would not need to continually repeat themselves.
Maybe then people would begin to feel heard.
Maybe then...maybe.
Stop. Listen.
PS: I'm very proud to say that the pictures and edits are my own. Quotes have been attributed within the edits :)
